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Kayla
Kayla, my oldest. She is 4 1/2 and is a sweet, loving and silly little girl. She took us 2 ½ years and 3 IVF’s to conceive. Kayla is allergic to dairy. We manage her allergy and work to balance her safety with giving her a normal childhood. Kayla loves to read books and play games - she amazes me every day.


Alysa
Alysa, my youngest. She is 3 years old and is a silly little spitfire. She’s our monkey and loves to climb on everything. She was a “natural” baby, but it was only b/c of my wonderful doctors that we were able to stop an impending miscarriage. Alysa suffers from Acid Reflux Disease and sleep apnea. She may be little, but she has a big personality. She adores her big sister and is so much fun to be around. She keeps me laughing every day.


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Monday, July 16, 2007
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This Week's Question is:
What sacrifices have you made as a SAHM or a Working Mom?

I'll start by saying that my dream and ultimate wish is to be a SAHM! Unfortunately that was not an option for us, as much as both of us wanted it. Before I even got pregnant, I told J that I refused to work full time. I did not want to be away from my kids full time. I wanted to be there for all their firsts. Needless to say he freaked a bit as I what you would call the "bread winner". After Kayla, I searched high and low for a part time job at my level - Senior Financial Analyst with a Master's Degree. Part time in corporate is hard to come by. I initially took a job at my old company that was a step down in both position and pay (and I mean more than relatively speaking). I really didn't care about the position - my kids come before my career. But they also stripped me of my vacation, sick and holiday pay. Basically, they ignored my 5 years of service. I was lucky enough to find a job working for my next door neighbor at my level making my old salary (relatively speaking with regards to my shorter hours). I currently work 20 hours per week which is broken into 2 full days and 1 day of 3 hours. The one saving grace with J being in retail management is he can have off during the week. So he is with the girls my two full days. The are with a wonderful babysitter in her home for 2.5 hours a week. We so lucked out with her.

The girls being home with us and not in daycare was very important to both of us. We have made the obvious financial sacrifices, as we rarely go out to eat and rarely get take-out, etc. We cut on expenses when we can and watch what we spend. The biggest sacrifice we made was family time. Family time is extremely important to us, but the girls being with us did come first. They get plenty of time with me and even more time with J than the average child (I mean alone time). This has been great as it's given him great perspective on what it is to take care of kids full time. But our time with the 4 of us is few and far between. J usually makes it home in time to put them to bed and we get a few nights a week where we get about 2 hours together - the 4 of us. But we only get 1 night a week when we can really have a good meal together and any days together have to be managed with vacation days. But...we work it out. I have seen almost all their firsts and J has even seen some. It's how we wanted it. I'm hopeful one day in the not-too-distant future we can have regular family days, but until then we are making it work.

Although, I'd much rather not work at all, I am extremely lucky with my employer/boss and know that if you "have" to work, I have the best of both worlds. And all the sacrifices we have made have been so worth it as we both have amazing bonds with our girls.

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posted at 8:44 AM  
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6 Comments:
At 10:45 AM, Anonymous jesse said...

Having to work when all you want to do is be home is hard. But I'm glad to hear that you have an employer who understands and you've been able to find part-time work.

 
At 11:29 AM, Blogger Michelle said...

it is so hard to find that right balance sometimes isn't it? Sounds like you guys have figured out a good solution that works everybody - except the amt of time when the 4 of you can be together all at once!

 
At 2:12 PM, Blogger ChupieandJ'smama said...

These decisions are never easy, but it sounds like you have found the best of both worlds. I haven't gotten to my "Mommy Talk" yet, but I wanted to let you know that I gave you an award :)

 
At 2:42 PM, Anonymous Killlashandra said...

Wow, it sounds like you guys have made a great go of it! I'm sure envious of the daycare part. The woman who watches my son is simply wonderful but still, I wish I could stay at home.

 
At 4:13 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

It's good to hear that you made the sacrifice of not making as much money as you did to put your kids first. I admire you for that. I also think it's great that your kids get one on one time with their daddy. I'm sure that means the world to them!

 
At 11:04 PM, Blogger Jennisa said...

It's so great that your husband can be with the girls so much! It is so important, especially for girls, to have that time with their daddy!

 

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